I'm getting all kinds of questions on the success of my "love contract". So... here is the scoop, I haven't finished it yet. However, since there is interest (maybe we can create a template!) -- I would love some chickchat input on what to include in my love contract with my significant other. After all, I want it to be a successful contract!
Why do I need a love contract? The background is this -- We've got three kids and I do everything (okay, I might be a bit bias here) and my significant other does little (I know, he works a job - but so do I 24/7; I'll give him credit though: he takes out the trash and deposits our Culligan water bottles on the water dispenser). I'm sure he does more, but I've hit the point where I just can't see it even if he does. As I put it to one chick earlier this week -- he just can't even breathe right (and if he reads this, he'll even have to laugh because he has started snoring!).
I realize a contract is give and take -- so I'm sure he'll want to have some input; although when I said I was going to create a love contract he told me to just type it up and he'd sign. Maybe I shouldn't look a gift horse in the mouth and just write my love contract!
Surprisingly, my mental list of wants is always long, but when I went to create my love contract, I couldn't figure out what to write. I feel like Jennifer Anniston in that movie when she said to her boyfriend -- "I want you to want to do the dishes." How do you put that in a love contract?
So -- if anyone has any thoughts -- please share them! Not sure my details are specific enough, but together maybe we can create a general template for tweaking, depending on the roosters (or chicks).
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I wish I had words of wisdom for you!! I can offer to put in your Culligan water bottle if your hubby starts to boycott : )
Well, it's a good thing we have a "girl's weekend" coming up, b/c I could never fit all of my thoughts here!! Having admitted that, I have recently been reading "The Wisdom of Menopause" by Dr. Christianne Northrup, whose premise really seems to be that the "change" that we feel at midlife is really a rewiring of our physical brain as well as that of our more spiritual mind, in preparation of the "rewriting of our contracts" for the redirecting of our lives as we move into their second halves. She actually does use the contract analogy throughout the book (which is enormous.) She is a medical doctor with a very interesting story and insights of her own, as well as what seems to be pretty thorough knowledge of Chinese medicine & philosophy, alternative healing, and intuitive psychology. There is A LOT of information here that really runs the gamut, and the good doctor herself encourages us to take what we like & leave what we don't...I'd recommend at least taking a look at this one to all chicks!( marriage, children, relationships, work, dreams, hot flashes, mood swings - something for everyone! She also has a "Mother-Daughter Wisdom" book out as well, also interesting food for thought.)See if you can find a voice for your thoughts to get you started in here...we'll talk more over the weekend! XO, Seachelle
had another good suggestion for a book to help with this one - "Covenant Marriage" by Gary Chapman....actually differentiates between "covenant" and "contract"...again, lots of food for thought!
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